Well kids, it's been a month and I now know one thing with absolute certainty: I am an "In-Person" person. I have a personality that (whether good or bad) comes across better face-to-face. My writing and communication style seems to hit a snag online. My goofy Match.com profile didn't get as much action as I thought and I'm going to chalk it up to a few reasons:
1). A HUGE problem with Match is that there are so many people that it's very easy to get lost in the shuffle. As my professional online dating friend points out, you have to update your profile every. single. day. in order to continuously pop up in searches. Sure enough, every time I changed a word or edited a line I received a lot more winks and interest than when I didn't.
2). Men don't read profiles. I have an inbox flooded with guys old enough to be my dad or with guys who speak three words of English. Yes, I will be a snobby bitch on this one. If I say 35 and under or over 5'9" I mean it. You'd be pissed if I claimed to weigh 130 and showed up at 210 right? I thought so... There's a reason I'm not emailing the Christian Bale look-alike - every woman under 80 is. I'm all for aiming high but you've gotta know when to throw in the towel.
3). The guys I emailed weren't impressed with my sarcastic, witty banter. So they're either looking for someone super serious or some variation of party chick. Ummmm, it's cool. I'll pass.
1). A HUGE problem with Match is that there are so many people that it's very easy to get lost in the shuffle. As my professional online dating friend points out, you have to update your profile every. single. day. in order to continuously pop up in searches. Sure enough, every time I changed a word or edited a line I received a lot more winks and interest than when I didn't.
2). Men don't read profiles. I have an inbox flooded with guys old enough to be my dad or with guys who speak three words of English. Yes, I will be a snobby bitch on this one. If I say 35 and under or over 5'9" I mean it. You'd be pissed if I claimed to weigh 130 and showed up at 210 right? I thought so... There's a reason I'm not emailing the Christian Bale look-alike - every woman under 80 is. I'm all for aiming high but you've gotta know when to throw in the towel.
Yes, I'll take two of these please
3). The guys I emailed weren't impressed with my sarcastic, witty banter. So they're either looking for someone super serious or some variation of party chick. Ummmm, it's cool. I'll pass.
Sorry, I refuse to get the credentials to pull off this look
How do you say "gross" in Guido?
Of course, there's always the possibility of me just not being enough (interesting, pretty, lack of boob shots) but determination of the experiment pushes me to keep trying. I've gotten more dates in everyday life than I have online. It's ok, it just means I need to up my game. Try different avenues and get advice from the professionals (no, I'm not paying you for said advice). If you have any, leave it in the comments and as always I love hearing from you guys.
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